»I never thought he could be my type… but I like his humour, I like his music and I like our talks«, I tell her, »you know, it’s just so awesome when you meet someone who’s interested in politics and society and with whom you can discuss about things! I like the challenge. I almost feel sorry that I wasn’t sure if I wanted to meet him in the first place. I just thought lawyers are boring guys, not normal funny people wearing hoodies and leather jackets.« She sips silently on her coffee. I frown. »What’s wrong You’re not happy for me at all?« »I am. Really. But… Kathi, don’t get this wrong, I just have to say it: Do you really think a lawyer is interested in you? You have to be honest with yourself here: Isn’t he a bit out of your league?« I am speechless. Silent for the rest of the evening. Only on the way home I can think about things to say to her.
People like me? People like… journalists? Converse buyers? bikers? cheap-coffee-drinkers? People who are laughing too loud in public? People who are buying at H&M instead of Guess or Prada? Are we still living in a world where people are out of our leagues and where we have to stay in our league? I feel like Rory Gilmore in that Gilmore Girls episode where she first meets Logan Huntzberger’s family. They tell her she’s not good enough. I don’t earn a ton of money, I don’t wear blouses, I wear Boho tops and I don’t like Justin Bieber, I like Rise Aigainst. Am I not good enough for a doctor, an investment banker, an attorney? I did my bachelor in business administration, I had some lectures in business law and I give everyone credit who made it through law school and earns 200 Euros per hour now! Still: Is he out of my league because of that?
It’s 2016 and our society is still incredibly outdated in so many things. We are a generation of infinite freedom. We can be egoistic, talk about personal freedom, self-fulfillment and self-discovery: and do it! We can go to Indian Ashrams or study for years or go to Asia to find ourselves and come back and start a nwe life. We can choose the people we date on Tinder like take-away dinner and can take home whoever we want and whenever we want. But instead of enjoying this luxury we are provided with, we decide to stick with the old traditions and social conventions.
Why should journalist not date lawyers in 2016?
Why should students not invite doctors for dinner in 2016?
Why should you marry as soon as you get children in 2016?
Why should you eye mixed-race couples suspiciously in 2016?
Why can’t you give your Egyptian-German son no arabic name without having to worry about his future well-being in 2016?
I don’t understand why we cling to the past when the future is so different now. I don’t understand why we have all the freedom in the world and can’t show tolerance at the same time.
By the way: I’m not seeing the lawyer anymore. This has nothing to do with his job anyhow. Okay, maybe a little bit. Because he works so much, he didn’t have the time to see me. I didn’t like that. Time’s the stake in my league.